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This is a Buddhist story that a friend shared with me this past week. There was a man who came to a temple in search of enlightenment.  He wanted to work with a teacher who could help him along this sacred path.  He was told that the teacher would become available to him, but first he…

First, what does it mean to truly give. We usually think of giving in the sense of gifts and positive regard, but it is much deeper than this.  Giving is about offering one’s most transparent self to another.  It is about being fully present in the sharing of oneself while simitaneously empathizing with the needs, feelings, experiences of another.  It is a commitment to this intention in every…

What do YOU do with uncomfortable emotions? Usually fear, anxiety, anger, shame top the list of what’s “uncomfortable”, hence what’s considered “unacceptable”. The problem is if we aren’t willing to recognize and ‘own’ these feelings, whatever they are, wherever they come from, then they will become destructive. This most often takes the form of self-blame…

Point not to what your partner does to “cause” the relational conflict, rather ask, “What is it that I am responsible for?” “How do my motives, actions or lack of action perpetuate the disconnect with my partner?” After all, it only takes one person to respond in a different, non-habitual way for the dynamic to…

In other words, we must be willing to look at the ways in which we cause our partners pain. No one wants to see how they are aggressive towards their loved one, even at the expense of knowing real love. I strongly resisted the truth about my manipulative behavior, but I absolutely wanted to have…

We heal in relationship. My life and work have been and continue to be transformed by this very truth. Hence, “2 to Heal”. Attempting to describe what it means to be fully “in relationship” and what the journey towards “healing” requires of us is the goal of this site. I have been a psychotherapist for…